About myclosure.org

Death is a reality that everyone must face one day - whether it is one's own death - or the death of a loved one

Unfortunately, Death often strikes when we least expect - and the unimagineable can happen to us OR our loved ones at any point in time.
Many have already experienced this - and the News - where at least one tragic and untimely death is reported almost daily - is testimony to this fact of life.

Losing Someone Special is one of the most painful things you may experience in your lifetime.

Especially, if the loss is :

Husband or Wife (your Spouse)

Son or Daughter (your Child)

Sister or Brother (Your Sibling)

Mother or Father (Your Parent)

OR if it is an unexpected and / or sudden loss of someone you are very fond of.

It is also one of the most painful things YOUR loved ones may experience should THEY lose someone special,

YOU,

for example.

This is what myclosure.org is about..

myclosure.org has been developed to assist people that are left behind in dealing with the grieving process after the death of a loved one has occurred.

It allows YOU to help your loved ones in their pain, should you pass on before them.

This website allows you to save precious messages which can be accessed by your loved ones, in the event of your death.

These will be Your final messages of love and gratitude which you will pre-record, to express how much they meant to you while you were alive.
Words that will be so special, and mean so much, to the ones you leave behind, should anything happen to you.

GRIEF

GRIEF is a profound feeling that affects anyone who has lost someone special.

Grief can be so profound that life loses all meaning for those that are left behind.

It is said that "Denial" is one of the stages of Grief.
Denial is believed to be the mechanism that helps people deal with the loss by refusing to believe that one’s loved one has passed on, or that the mind refuses to accept the loss.

However, this is not always the case. The person grieving often knows full well that their loved one is no longer. And they have accepted this.

It is the shock, trauma and overwhelming feeling of loss that they cannot deal with. As well as the realization that they will have to continue life without their loved one.

Your words to them may have the ability to soften the harsh blow that they will endure should they lose you.
It can never take their pain or grief away – it is simply giving them some comfort in the face of their loss.

Your Loved Ones

If YOU have a Spouse, have children, have brothers and/or sisters, or have parents who are currently alive we strongly urge you to use this website.

It is not so much about what YOU will gain - but more what your loved ones will. A message from you which can be accessed after your death would be so special.

Your Infants

Even if you are a parent with very young children who may not understand now, one day they will grow up. They may not even remember you, should you be taken when they are very young - however, imagine how much a message from YOU would mean to THEM when they DO grow up.

Your close friends

Besides your loved ones (family and relatives) there may be other people that have made a difference in your life (close friends, mentors, teachers, coaches, sports groups, religious groups etc).

Let them know your gratitude and appreciation for what they did for you in your lifetime by using this website.

Your own peace of mind

Additionally, by leaving your final words to all the people you love and care for - while you have the opportunity - you, yourself, will gain a sense of PEACE - knowing that, should anything happen to you, - myclosure.org will enable your loved ones to download your precious messages no matter where they are (providing they have connectivity).

CLOSURE

There are many different views on the concept of "Closure" and what it really means.

One view being - "it is when a person comes to terms with one's loss and makes a conscious decision to try to continue a normal life without their loved one. (this does not necessarily mean the pain or grief have gone)".

Others relate it to finding the body of a loved one that has been lost in some disaster and finally putting it to rest.

And some say that there can be no such thing as "closure" after losing a loved one. The pain, grief, and memories will always remain.

Whichever the case, your Words of Love and Encouragement may help your loved ones find the strength and the will to continue without you more readily, even though the sadness may always remain.

THE REALITY

Unfortunately, a person seldom knows when their time will come - resulting in many unspoken words.

Words that would have been treasured by those that remain.

If you believe you are at your healthiest - full of life - and this does not apply to you or your family - think again.

Death waits for no one. And it does not discriminate between healthy or sick, young or old, rich or poor, good or bad, strong or weak.

It is simply the reality of being alive or being dead.

And death may come swiftly and unexpectedly at any time.

The people that are left behind are the ones that will suffer the most.

You may believe that you will have time to say what you want when your time comes. However, the fact of the matter is, if death is unexpected, e.g. heart attack, stroke, accident etc, you probably will not be able to speak at all, and your loved ones may not be at hand, and there may not be enough time.

It therefore makes sense to compile these precious messages while you are not under duress.

Help your loved ones in the event of YOUR DEATH.

YOUR MESSAGES

Messages left for your loved ones can be words of:

Comfort (remember they will be grieving)
Love (how much you loved them)
Gratitude (for all they did for you)
How much they meant to you (the special things about them that you treasured)
Your Advice (especially if you have children or were the breadwinner of the family)
Peace (a time to reconcile if there have been conflicts)

and finally,

Encouragement (as they continue their lives without you)

Encouragment is one of the most important and powerful messages you may leave your loved ones, especially if you have a Spouse and children, (and indeed, siblings and parents that are currently alive). Words explaining that life must continue without you. That they still have a life to lead, and that, though you understand they will feel great sadness, they must still strive to find happiness without you. It is giving them your blessing and best wishes as they carry on in their lives.

These are words that one cannot ordinarily say to loved ones while alive.

These are words recorded in the context of you having passed on - while they need to continue without you.

Typically, a message can begin like this:

“Dear……….
In case something happens to me, I just want to tell you.…..”

OR

“Dear……….
If you are listening to this, I am no longer with you.
I just want to say how much ……..”

Etc.

i.e. It will be YOUR Closure with them. Messages that will be treasured for life by the people left behind.

YOUR FINAL ADDRESS

You may also, if you wish, leave your own “Self Eulogy". Though not really a "Eulogy" as such, it will be YOUR final address giving a brief account of your life as you saw it, valuable lessons you learnt from your experiences – your words of gratitude, your advice, etc. for those that survive you . A general message to all your acquaintances and others which can be read (if document), or heard (if voice note) at your Service - or any time thereafter i.e. this would be your final general address to others - YOUR LEGACY

Note: This is not intended to replace the conventional Eulogy where someone else gives an account of you.

LAST WILL AND TESTAMENT

In addition, you may also upload a vocal recording of a "Last Will and Testament" to express your wishes regards distribution of your belongings to loved ones / friends.

We realise that many people do not have the luxury of producing a formal document and having it lodged with the correct authority. We therefore allow you to record your wishes in your own voice.

Disclaimer:

Please note that this is NOT to replace a formally documented Will. It is best practise to seek professional advice when compiling any Last Will and Testament (if one can afford it). This option is only made available for those who are unable to have a formally documented Will.

No guarantee is made regarding the acceptability of this method of recording your Last Will and Testimony in your country or state..